Meghan Markle details ‘unbearable grief’ after suffering miscarriage

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Meghan Markle details 'unbearable grief' after suffering miscarriage

Meghan Markle revealed Wednesday that she suffered a miscarriage in the summer — describing the “almost unbearable grief” it caused her and husband Prince Harry.

The 39-year-old Duchess of Sussex recalled in a personal essay for The New York Times feeling a “sharp pain” on an ordinary morning in July while changing one-year-old son Archie’s diaper at home in California.

“I dropped to the floor with him in my arms, humming a lullaby to keep us both calm, the cheerful tune a stark contrast to my sense that something was not right,” she wrote. “I knew, as I clutched my firstborn child, that I was losing my second.”

The former actress was taken to a hospital where she recalled holding Harry’s hand and “kissed his knuckles, wet from both our tears.”

“Staring at the cold white walls, my eyes glazed over. I tried to imagine how we’d heal,” she wrote.

“Losing a child means carrying an almost unbearable grief, experienced by many but talked about by few.”

It was not clear how far along Markle was in her pregnancy, which the royals had not revealed.

In the essay — titled “The Losses We Share” — Markle said she was revealing her own heartache after learning that it was one suffered in silence by many others.

“In the pain of our loss, my husband and I discovered that in a room of 100 women, 10 to 20 of them will have suffered from miscarriage,” she wrote.

“Yet despite the staggering commonality of this pain, the conversation remains taboo, riddled with (unwarranted) shame, and perpetuating a cycle of solitary mourning.

She referred to an interview with British journalist Tom Bradby in Africa in September 2019 where he moved her with the simple question, “Are you OK?”

“Sitting in a hospital bed, watching my husband’s heartbreak as he tried to hold the shattered pieces of mine, I realized that the only way to begin to heal is to first ask, ‘Are you OK?’” she wrote of their miscarriage heartbreak.

Prince Harry, Duke of Sussex, Meghan, Duchess of Sussex and their baby son Archie
Prince Harry, Duke of Sussex, Meghan, Duchess of Sussex and their baby son ArchieWireImage

“In being invited to share our pain, together we take the first steps toward healing.”

She said that simple request was more important in ever in 2020, noting the coronavirus pandemic as well as protests over the police custody deaths of both George Floyd and Breonna Taylor.

“This year has brought so many of us to our breaking points. Loss and pain have plagued every one of us in 2020, in moments both fraught and debilitating,” she wrote.

“So this Thanksgiving, as we plan for a holiday unlike any before — many of us separated from our loved ones, alone, sick, scared, divided and perhaps struggling to find something, anything, to be grateful for — let us commit to asking others, ‘Are you OK?’” she wrote.

“Are we OK? We will be,” she insisted.

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